Author: Karen Suppes
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Parenting gets Personal
“I still feel so much hurt over the disrespect my child has shown me, that I do not want to show them love until they deserve it.“ Being a parent can be so hard. Actually, it is hard most of the time. We can literally feel like punching bags as our children disobey, disrespect, openly…
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“Why is my child acting up?”
It can be helpful as a parent to step back and consider the “why” behind a child’s misbehavior. Just like adults do any number of things to accomplish a goal, children often do this through all of their behavior. It is the “mis”-behavior that we often label as problematic and focus our attention on as…
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“My kid has so many issues. And we have such a tense relationship.”
As humans we are so easily drawn to what is not working. We spot the problems, and over look the things that are going right. We want to fix whatever seems broken. As parents this effort usually gets diverted onto our children. We take responsibility to teach them what is right. We want them to…
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You don’t know what you don’t know.
Most parents parent the way they were parented. We don’t get an owner’s manual when our first little one comes along, and so we often rely on the hard-wired information about how to parent from being parented ourselves. The good news is that parenting skills are just that…skills. No one is born a great parent.…
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Styles of Parenting
Since we’ve all been parented one way or another, it’s important to consider different styles in which parenting comes out. Do all the styles have equally effective outcomes? Does it really matter which style someone chooses? Once we distinguish three common styles, you will be able to answer those questions for yourself. Giving Orders This…
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“Why is being a parent so important?”
It’s not hard to argue that a parent is the most influential influence in a child’s life. Attachment theories illumine the innate need babies are born with to attach, trust, and depend on a caregiver in order to thrive in life. God, our Creator, was the author of the family system where ideally two parents…
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“If my child is the one who needs therapy, why do I need skills training as a parent?”
No child is a broken thing that needs to be fixed. Sometimes parents think that therapy fixes people, or children, by merely changing behaviors. Children aren’t problems to be fixed. Instead, children can feel stuck and often misbehave in ways that parents deem problematic. But no child wants to feel stuck forever. And a CCPT…